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The Dragonfly God
At
this moment, sitting in the over-stuffed green chair in my living room, I drink my morning tea, and write. My senses are alive
with this beautiful spring day. Windows and doors are wide open, bringing a fresh breeze through the house. Inside these four
walls, I am in my own world.
Contemplating the subject matter I will deal with today, I marvel at the natural world
that is all around me. I am keenly aware of the silence on this morning only to be interrupted by the fragmented sounds of
chirping birds in the backyard. There is also a faint buzzing in the distance. Curious to find out what this is, I look to
the source. This is the sound of... (read on)
A Perspective
of Fear
We want approval and acceptance
– We like to be liked! The alternative – rejection
– can be painful. “I just worry that they won’t like me” has been spoken in the privacy of my office
countless times over the years. Also common is the phrase, “Is it fair if I ask them to change, they won’t like
it.” In my experience rejection is one of the most common human fears. Psychotherapy peels back... (read on)
Instinct is good
Today I’m about fifteen minutes into my run in the woods. Up ahead about twenty yards, I see what appears
to be a large white Labrador retriever. This is not that unusual considering that people sometimes bring their dogs along
for a trip through the woods and I run into them periodically. It occurs to me that there is no person to go along with
the dog and as I’m getting closer I realize that this is no dog – this is a wild hog. This is when my heart
starts thumping.... (read on)
Competitive vs.
Cooperative Relationships
In order for bad
relationships to become good relationships, they must transition from being
essentially competitive to essentially cooperative.
What
is a competitive relationship?... (read on)
What to do with
time and energy.
Are your time and energy limited? When discussing a troubling or
unwanted behavior with one of my clients, I often ask, “How much time and energy to you spend in that activity?”
If time and energy are limited in life, then the choices you make about how to live are critical. If this is so, can we maximize
what we have?... (read on)
Purpose?
Several years ago I saw a sad young man who asked me a question, "What’s the purpose of life?" Now
in the life of a therapist, this might be a golden opportunity?... (read on)
